The fact that I have not packed for tomorrow's trip to Kelantan is the reason for merely one post on the Brunei experience. Kamal has always known that I am extremely sentimental about travel memories, thus the abundance of photos and the precise posts. For a start, presenting my cousin's first wedding ritual, Azmi & Nora: Babadak, interwoven with stories on Kamal, Khalish, and I.
The three of us flew by Air Asia to Brunei on April 22, 2009, together with my parents. Upon arrival at Brunei International Airport, we concluded that the journey would be better with Malaysia Airlines, particularly with an infant and a lot of items, which were mainly wedding accessories, to handle. The warm greetings from our Bruneian relatives instantly eradicated such thoughts though. We were fetched by Mak Lang (my mother's elder sister) herself, Abang Uci (Mak Lang's eldest child), Airul (Mak Lang's youngest child), and Abang Firdaus (Mak Lang's son-in-law).
Within fifteen minutes, we were served with sumptuous dinner spread at Manggis. Sumptuous spreads were indeed served throughout the stay at Pak Lang & Mak Lang's abode, which was until April 27, 2009. Then, there were ever ready smiles. Khalish, in particular, loved the melodious Bruneian dialect. He automatically swayed his head left and right each time my cousin, Kak Noni, spoke. A body sway ensued if she sang. My uncle, aunt, and cousins' amicability was also reflected in the children, and as we later discovered, ran in Pak Lang's family from Tutong as well.
April 23, 2009. Thursday. Majlis babadak commenced after Maghrib. During the day, Airul volunteered to drive Ayah and Kamal around Bandar Seri Begawan. Kamal came back with lovely architectural shots. I decided to chill in Manggis, enjoying the final preparation for the wedding while letting Khalish warm up to the new surrounding. My mother spared half an hour to prepare a week worth of rice, dory, and carrot puree for her grandson, who has always loved her cooking. She even ironed our clothes for the evening, and I of course reciprocated by ironing my parents' clothes for the rest of the four-day wedding.
Remembering my previous visit to Brunei for Kak Nina's wedding, during which Mak Lang requested that I wore a veil for certain reasons, I put on one for the ceremony. To my surprise, someone did not prefer the look. Khalish. The negative reaction was most probably caused by confusion as I appeared totally different in a full veil, as opposed to the usual casual scarf.
He bawled. He even struggled out of my embrace. He refused the milk bottle or simply anything that I handed to him. He continued the riot until my mother took him from me. Way far from me. She soothed my frustration by encouraging me to shoot photos with Kamal, seeing him carrying two cameras.
I actually missed two third of the ceremony. The procession of the bride, Nora, from her room to the dais, assisted by the elder sisters and the Penganggun, who observed the traditional customs in Brunei. The marhaban. The babadak ritual that bore a slight similarity with majlis merenjis in Malaysia. The same ritual for Afeeq, Abang Firdaus and Kak Noni's five months old son. Then, there were the other cousins' children, who were earlier warned by their parents not to tire themselves out, passing favours to guests who performed the rituals.
I was thankful though that I managed to capture Nora's glowing beauty in traditional babadak attires through the lens later. Too bad I was occupied with Khalish during the
badak-badak mandi ritual held each morning throughout her wedding days. I have only witnessed it once, before Kak Nina's sanding ceremony.
About Khalish. After a number of shots, I could not concentrate on getting more as my mind raced back to him. So, I went to the room where my mother and Khalish were, only to find him asleep. I passed my camera to Kamal, carried Khalish to our room, changed him into sleep attires, and ensuring that he was deep in sleep, quickly cleaned myself at the restroom. That was when Nora went upstairs with the official photographer to have a photo taken with me, to no avail. For the next sessions, I made a point to join the queue for a group photo as soon as the formal do was over.
Khalish, he continued to weep lightly even in his sleep. I patted his back and after a long while, he stopped weeping. I asked my cousins if it would be appropriate for the following ceremonies if I did not put on any veils. It was alright, alright. Nevertheless, although Khalish had his mommy back for the next sessions, as opposed to the woman in veil who claimed to be his mommy, my mother volunteered to babysit him to provide a space for me to shoot more photos for personal collection. I can't thank you enough, Mak.
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| The woman in veil who claimed to be Khalish's mother, and the upset son. |
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